When resistance to hearing or changing meets resistance to hearing or changing there can be only one result: conflict. Sometimes that resistance sounds to our inner dialog as simply attempting to get our very correct position understood. Regardless of the motivation, the more we press our point, the more often we repeat our position, […]
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At a certain point in my life I was the most caustic person imaginable. I could spit out words at others which would cut to the quick. There was no malice intended, mostly, it was simply a defense process I used to protect myself. Protect myself from what? I cannot say, it doesn’t matter now. What
We have spoken about gossip, haven’t we? If not we shall soon. Right now I want to discuss gossips next door neighbor: complaints. Complaints can have the same corrosive effect on our relationships as gossip. Does this mean we are to accept whatever comes our way without questioning? Of course not. What makes one complaint corrosive and
From the book “It’s All About Me” (which will be published just as soon as the way is reveled to me) comes this idea of expectations and assumptions becoming corrosive in our relationships. I call this an “exumption”, the tendency to make an assumption or to create an expectation of which the other party is unaware. This
One of the first things we must come to realize as we step into an In-powered world and experience, is that we can no longer blame anyone else for our actions, our choices, our thoughts. As a result, we can not longer blame the boss, our parents, spouse, friends or the dog for our not achieving or
For the past few weeks I have been inviting you to support the campaign to get my next book published. In short, didn’t happen. QUESTION: Am I therefore a failure? to answer this question I turn to none less than Thomas Edison. Ole Tom is quoted as saying “I have not failed, I’ve just found
Let’s make this clear right off the bat; no one, no thing, no event, can ruin our day. Unless of course we allow that to happen. Certainly it is easier to blame others for how we are feeling, easier to blame events for creating our mental outlook, yet without exception events and other people can
Today I participated in the final send-off of a dear friend of mine. At times like this I think the most important realization we can embody is; how many people we impact in our daily lives. It may seem sometimes that we go through life not making much of an impact on anything. That was the
Last time we discussed expectations and how they can blow up in our faces. There is a companion to expectations which is just as fraught with danger. I speak of Assumptions. If I assume you are going to do something: if I assume you understand what I just said: If I assume you are in
Expectations are like opinions, we all have them. Too often we have them about and for other people. The problem is, we do not share with them that they must live up to our expectation, or even what that expectation is! This, my friends leads us down the road to anger and discord. How can I live
