At a certain point in my life I was the most caustic person imaginable. I could spit out words at others which would cut to the quick. There was no malice intended, mostly, it was simply a defense process I used to protect myself. Protect myself from what? I cannot say, it doesn’t matter now. What I have noticed in my own life the past few years is that I am now very sensitive when others do the same thing to me. I recognize the words do not truly reflect me, but they do reflect the other person, but I still feel the hurt because they hit upon things I want to clear in my own life.
It is high time I release both my own anger, and the anger of those who speak those words to me: forgiveness if you will. I have been taught a wonderful process to do just this, and maybe you will find a place in your life for this process too. It was developed by Dr. Hu Lin from Maui, and is called “The Point of I”. When something another says hurts me, or I recall doing similar things to others I say “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.” With these few words, felt to my core, much of the pain and anger is released. and I can move forward in peace. Repeat as necessary. To those I hurt with my unthinking words, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.