Month: March 2017

How do we define ourselves?

Do we define ourselves by what we think others are or are  not?  Do we define ourselves by how many others have harmed us?  Do we define ourselves by the burdens we carry, our responsibilities?  All these are very transient definitions, so when we finally learn that no one has truly harmed us more than …

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What’s The Problem?

“Houston, we have a problem.”  A famous line from the movie Apollo 13 but also a very familiar thought going through our minds.  The real problem is we do not step back and ask ourselves what the problem really is!  Is the problem life threatening?  If so, take immediate action, if not, take yourself off …

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Defending Myself

It seems to me that almost every conflict stems from feeling the need to defend ourselves.  I say “feeling the need” to defend ourselves; very often there is no need to defend ourselves, it sometimes just feels that way.  This stems from an insistence that we must be right and someone else must be wrong. …

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Who Am I?

The question is; how do we define ourselves?  Do we define ourselves by how many people we have charmed?  Do we define ourselves by the burdens we carry or our responsibilities? Do we define ourselves by our jobs, our cars, our homes, our income? None of these definitions truly answer the question “Who Am I?” …

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To Reason

Essentially there are two ways to reason; from wonder and awe (curious) or through rationality.  When we reason through wonder and awe we are like the child; open to possibility.  When we reason through rationality we often overlook the wonderful things life has to offer. Obviously there are times to stand in wonder and awe, …

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Your Magnificent Self

Does this sound familiar to you?  When someone gives you a complement you either dismiss the compliment (“You don’t have to thank me.”) or downplay the compliment (“It was nothing.”)  Either way you are dishonoring the Magnificent Self you are, and at the same time you are dishonoring the person offering the compliment. Most compliments …

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Happy St. Patrick’s Day

One of the things I enjoy about St. Patrick’s day, along with Cinco De Mayo, and other cultural celebrations is how, at least for a short time, we can all celebrate the diversity of our culture.  This wonderful country of ours is made up primarily by immigrants.  This has been true from the very beginning …

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Purifying Fire

There are many species of trees and plants which drop seeds that cannot begin new growth without an intensive fire to open them and allow them to grow.  It is easy to look at forest fires and range fires as being needlessly destructive, until we recognize the positive effects of fire. The same is true …

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I Don’t Hear You

Yes, I know your lips are moving, and I hear sound coming from your mouth, but I do not hear you because you are speaking Butterfly and I am listening as Bear, or you are speaking Bear and I am listening as Butterfly. Does this situation sound familiar?  There is no “war of the sexes,” but …

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Know Thy Enemy

Who is our enemy?  Can we live without having an enemy?  What if there is no enemy at all?  Could it be that defining another person, place or thing as an enemy is simply a convoluted way of defining ourselves?  Could it be that unless we have some one or some thing to push against …

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