Month: October 2014

Our Costumes

Tonight many of us will open our doors to hob-goblins, ghosts and ghouls of countless descriptions.  Do you recall that the purpose of wearing these costumes can be traced back to the tradition of one night a year, wearing on the outside what we are afraid of on the inside?  Many of us are afraid of …

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It’s All Too Much!

No question about it, we are entering the busiest season of the year for most people.  Halloween is  here, and how far behind can the Turkey Dinner/shopping/party/family/stress-out bonanza be? and if the holidays are not enough, it  is election season too.  The pressure is all too much!  If there is anytime in the year we want …

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Assume the negative

Seems I am on a theme run right now, we discussed being a yes or no person the other day.  Somewhat in the same theme is the question: “when I hear things from others, do I assume they are negative, and go into a defensive posture every time?” Jon walks in and says, “hey, I …

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Are you a yes, or no person?

Ask yourself, when someone comes to me with an idea or suggestion, is my first response to say yes, or is my first response to say no? It doesn’t matter if the idea or suggestion is good or the idea has merit, is your first response most often yes, or no? I have to laugh …

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D.O.P.E. completion

So, to complete this go round with Drama Oriented Power Exchange, or DOPE; now that we are aware of the presence of DOPE, now that we are awakened to how easily we can get sucked into its vortex, what can we do about its effects? We can become the Involved Observer in our lives.  As …

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D.O.P.E. part 2

As I was saying, DOPE is all around us, the tendency to define ourselves by how much information we can disseminate, how much of a reaction we can get for that dissemination, as well as the bond such information seems to create between ourselves and others are all factors in the addiction to DOPE. Even …

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D.O.P.E.

Do you know someone addicted to DOPE?  Are your addicted to DOPE?  Drama Oriented Power Exchange, or DOPE is all around us, and we feed into it every time we share gossip or complain to someone who cannot help resolve an issue.  The FDA has no people out there trying to regulate DOPE, the DEA …

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The “Real” World

I know some of you have been reading these posts and thinking “sure, that is great in concept, but in the real world, that is not how things work”.  I understand, I really do because it has not been so long ago that I too believed there were two realities; what things could be, and …

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Impossible

Tonight I watched Peyton Manning throw touchdown pass number 509.  This was an impossible task, except for Peyton who did not recognize the term Impossible.  Same thing for the man who held the record before Peyton the sky was the limit.  Who makes an accomplishment impossible?  We do.  Who makes an accomplishment possible?  We do. …

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Resistance meets resistance

  When resistance to hearing or changing meets resistance to hearing or changing there can be only one result: conflict.  Sometimes that resistance sounds to our inner dialog as simply attempting to get our very correct position understood.  Regardless of the motivation, the more we press our point, the more often we repeat our position, …

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