In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.” “You should try this.” “Do it this way.” We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person. Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine […]
One of the basic things I was taught as a little child was Civility towards others. That is not to say I have always been able to control my mouth. Once in a while I have been known to express my disappointment in another person by letting loose a less than civil tirade. HOWEVER, I
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You have tried every self-help program out there, and none of them have worked. Not one single one of them has worked. You are frustrated and ready to give up on the idea of experiencing a better life, getting more money or having a wonderful relationship. I totally get it. Nothing worked for me either,
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When we have a problem we might go to our confidant, our priest, minister or parent for advice. If the advice or suggestion we get is uncomfortable or asks of us something we do not want to do or is counter to what we have already decided the answer is, we turn away, we decide that the advice
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No, don’t stop thinking forever, just stop thinking about the wrong things. This weekend I was stuck in miles and miles and miles of traffic; hours worth. I found myself getting quite perturbed, as you might imagine. What saved me from becoming a two minute segment on the TV news about road rage was my realization
Am I my job? Am I my car? Am I my house? Am I my income? In every case the answer is a resounding NO! You are more than our house, your car, your job or your income, yet sometimes we find ourselves identifying more with our stuff than who we are inside. Years ago
There are many people around us who would prefer if we lived our lives quietly, not rocking their boat, not allowing ourselves to be who we are. These folks are full of “kindly” advice about how we should live, think and do. We bless these people and move around them because living small is not
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.” I can still hear my mother saying that to me even though decades have passed since I last heard her voice. It is still good advice today, for you and for me both. Yet for some reason we seem to have the need to
You are an intelligent, perceptive and forward thinking individual. So why won’t they take your advice? If people would only listen to you, the world would be so much better! The thing is, most other people think of themselves the same way! Even if your idea can revolutionize the world, and the only thing anyone
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