Brian Graham

Your Memorial

When it comes time for your memorial service, what will people say about you?  Will their words be of someone who devoted their life to living and service?  How would you like to be remembered?   Admittedly, the topic of death and memorial services is not one most people want to spend much time looking […]

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The School of Love

The School of Love is in session, and you are the only student. Set aside all the conflicting definitions of love.  Release the idea that love and romance are synonymous.  Fear of being misunderstood as you stand in love is a distraction from your classwork.   Focus on yourself How do you feel about yourself?

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Levels of Consciousness

When I speak of Consciousness I am referring to how we view the world, how we view ourselves and how we view the interconnectedness of all things. Consciousness is an evolving experience, and it is a very personal thing.  We cannot judge anyone else’s consciousness, in many cases not even our own.  What is an

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Wanting to help

In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.”  “You should try this.”  “Do it this way.”  We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person.   Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine

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Jumping the fence

When we were little kids an obstacle was no problem, we simply jumped over the fence, or gate or sleeping dog.  As we added years to our count, for some reason we begin to forget that an obstacle is not a roadblock if we are committed to moving forward. Discernment I try to view an obstacle as

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Feed the children

To feed the children does not simply mean to give them physical food.  Food, while obviously essential, is only the first step in supporting children.  A child who is provided nourishment but deprived of human touch, love, attention and emotional support withers on the vine. Be aware Be aware of your words to and around

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Build a new model

Are your frustrated with the way your life is going?  Do you feel like everyday is Groundhog Day, and like Bill Murray, nothing ever really changes?  Same old job, same old car, same old friends?  Simply put, the issue is not with your job, or your friends, or your car, the issue is within you,

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Rising above it all

Let’s face it, once in a while we all lose control of our emotions.  We all lose control of that wonderfully evolved person we have become.  It doesn’t matter how much work we have done to love everyone (from near, or perhaps far) the stuff of life sometimes just creeps up on us.  But there

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