Month: April 2018

How do I stack-up?

One of the tendencies we have is to compare ourselves to others.  He has more hair, she is thinner, they are smarter than I am.  We cannot win at this game.  Neither can we win the comparison game the other way; I am more fit than he is, my car is nicer than theirs, at …

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Shame as control

One of the ways we control our youngsters is through shame.  Of course we don’t consider it controlling, we sugar-coat it as “Teaching” but it is still shame.  “Do you want people thinking you are a slob?” we might tell a young one.  Innocent as this little phrase might at first sound, it will last …

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The inspirational gift

The most powerful gift we can give is the gift that inspires others to give.  The really cool part about this gift is that it will not cost you any money at all! Earth Day I am proud to say that I was part of the first Earth Day observance way back in April 1970. …

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Being courageous

Being courageous is a continuation of my writing from last Friday about courage. Being courageous in your life The prerequisite to loving any other person is to love yourself first.  This is no easy task.  It seems like every time we turn-around someone is offering us a reason not to love ourselves.  They will tell you …

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Having courage

Very often we hear the words courage and bravery used as synonyms, as though they have the same meaning.  They do not have the same meaning.  Among the definitions of the word bravery you will find the word courage, but among the definitions of courage bravery hardly appears at all.  What you will find as …

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Your perspective

From the perspective of a narrow, dirty city alley, life can look pretty ugly.  If you are standing on a broad, well-tended avenue bustling with life in the same city, the world is filled with more possibility.  Go to a hilltop overlooking the same city, that city looks picturesque.  Should you find your self standing …

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Being Wrong

There is nothing wrong with being wrong.  There is simply no way we can know everything, every time.  What we do this  moment is the best we know how to do at this moment.  Given the same set of choices at another moment in time we might choose to do things differently, but there ya …

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Feeling optimistic

I am optimistic about the future of our young women.  Yes, I know there are so many reasons to be concerned about them; but we don’t have to go into them here.  What has me optimistic is my interaction with twenty two fantastic young ladies last night. Judging from the past Having come of age …

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The software of doubt

Have you run a system scan on your thinking looking for software of doubt?  For most of us it is there, just like a brain virus. Brain virus does not have to mean something like meningitis.  Brain virus can also mean catching the disease of “I can’t.” Just like your computer Just as your computer …

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Failure is success

Failure can be success.  “Show me a good loser, and I will show you a loser.”  These immortal words have driven generations of people to fear the idea of failure.  The result has been a culture of blame.   Are you crazy? Am I crazy to suggest that failure is simply success in another guise? …

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