Being courageous

Being courageous is a continuation of my writing from last Friday about courage.

Being courageous in your life

The prerequisite to loving any other person is to love yourself first.  This is no easy task.  It seems like every time we turn-around someone is offering us a reason not to love ourselves.  They will tell you it is self-centered to love ourselves.  Some will suggest dozens of reasons to find fault with our appearance, our manner of speaking, what we do for a living, where we came from, well, you get the idea.  In being courageous these suggestions do not take root in our being.  And once we get a handle on this personal input,  we turn our attention to loving another person and it all begins again!  To love ourselves and love others is a perfect exercise in being courageous.

You are worthy

You are worthy of loving and being loved.  You do not have to prove anything to anyone outside yourself that this is true.  The basic imperative of humans is to learn to give love and accept love.  The bully who tweets snarky comments about other people is simply looking for love.  The overbearing person in your department is simply looking for love.  Even the anti-social hooligan is, in their own way, looking for love, and each is worthy of love.  Not love of, or for, their actions, but love as it is hardwired into all of us.  This love does not mean you want to sleep with them, but love as another human being.  That is why when someone assaults you with harsh words you can turn the situation around by telling them “You are loved.”  This gives them no comeback because you have answered the need they are expressing poorly.

The most courageous thing

The most courageous thing you can do for yourself is to love yourself and to love your neighbor.  Sounds kind of biblical doesn’t it?  Be courageous, read It’s All About Me and learn to stand for love.  Begin by clicking on the cover below and read a sample, then order your own copy.

The Involved Observer