How do I stack-up?

One of the tendencies we have is to compare ourselves to others.  He has more hair, she is thinner, they are smarter than I am.  We cannot win at this game.  Neither can we win the comparison game the other way; I am more fit than he is, my car is nicer than theirs, at least I am smarter than her.  When we attempt to define ourselves by what others have, what they do, or how they look we place ourselves in a precarious position.  You see, there will always be someone prettier or more handsome.   There will always be someone with more resources than ourselves, and heavens knows, we will not always be the smartest person in the room.

Heading for a fall

If we attempt to make ourselves feel better about ourselves by judging others, we are headed for a fall.   Build your self-image around judgement and when that day arrives when someone shows up with a more alluring image, our only recourse is to feel poorly about ourselves.

You have no idea

There is no way to know what is going on in another persons heart, or mind.  No way to know the self doubt they experience, the trials and tribulations they go through to maintain the image we place such stock in.  If we had any idea of the whole life behind the facade they project, we probably would decide that perfect hair, creamy complexion or the tanned, fit body is not worth it.  These are just some of the pitfalls of which we are unaware.

If you must judge

If you must compare yourself to others, compare them on who they are as a person.  If they bring joy to a gathering, the 1972 Pinto in the driveway doesn’t matter at all.  The flashiest clothing or transportation cannot make up for a person who treats others poorly.  As for their station in life?  When you come right down to it, everyone has a boss.  To one degree or another we all work for someone else, so why think less of yourself than the president of the corporation?  Celebrities still have to look at themselves in the mirror in the morning too!

When all is said and done the only thing you have to compare yourself to is yourself.  Read It’s All About Me to find out how to maximize and improve that comparison.  Just click the cover below for a sample read and order your own copy.

The Involved Observer