No, this is not about enjoying a brew on the beach on Maui (although that sounds great.) What I want to discuss is those people in our lives who live through being emotional vampires. I think you know the person I am speaking about; they call at all hours demanding you listen to their angst, […]
When we find ourselves upset, angry or just pissed-off at someone or something it is very rarely about that person or thing. It is most often simply the most recent out-picturing of a long trail which began sometime in our past. The really wonderful thing about this anger or upset is once we recognize what we are
I am the first to admit my computer skills are…OK, somewhat behind where they might be. I also like to think I am a pretty even tempered guy, able to deal with things as they come along and keep an even keel, HOWEVER, when I get on the phone with a tech support person about
My sweetheart Jeannette and I have had this discussion many times, and Henry Miller is quoted as saying it so well: “One’s destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things.” Too often we get caught up thinking that the whole purpose of life is to achieve a goal. That is an example
When we listen to others speak what we will hear is their story. This story might be full of joy, it might be full of doom and gloom, it might be funny, or scary, it might be anything at all, but it is still a story. To fully hear what the other person is saying
I mentioned Wednesday how I got a new understanding about my book It’s All About Me, and how the Involved Observer process works, even after working with it for almost two years before publication, and I want to share it with you. In the IO process we ask ourselves why something is bothering us. We
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This phrase “dysfunctional family” is one which has stuck in my craw for some time. First it requires a judgment about the validity of someones life. Even if you are in that family, you only see a very narrow range of what is going on. Second, it does not matter how the family is functioning,
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When we send our kids off to school we think the teachers at that school are going to teach our kids (or grand kids) what they need to know. The truth is those dedicated people in the teaching profession do a wonderful job in so many areas, but the most important lessons are not the ones
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No matter how deep the love is someone is offering you, no matter how much money you might have in the bank, no matter how good your health is, if you cannot see it for what it is, it simply does not exist. In It’s All About Me I quote a friend of mine, Ted Farrell,
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Yes, you are in control of your life. You call the shots, you directly control all aspects of your life. Good for you! Suddenly we realize that rather than being in control of our lives we are really doing nothing more than moving with the tides around us. This can come about from several directions:
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