One of the most difficult things we have to do, especially as parents, is watch someone we love learn a lesson. We want those we love to have only positive experiences as they go through life, so we want to meddle. We want to ease their way, but sometimes the best thing we can do […]
In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.” “You should try this.” “Do it this way.” We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person. Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine
Put a bunch of Bear Energy people together in one room and it is a beautiful thing; boisterous and physical to be sure, but still a beautiful thing. Now, put a group of Butterfly Energy people in one room it is also beautiful; chattery and touchy, yet still beautiful. Now, if you gather both the
When my beautiful Bride Terrie starts chattering at me about something on her mind I sometimes mentally run and hide because I know there will be about a zillion words coming my way, and I won’t know which ones to listen to. I also know that when my beautiful Bride Terrie asks me a question
Yes, I know your lips are moving, and I hear sound coming from your mouth, but I do not hear you because you are speaking Butterfly and I am listening as Bear, or you are speaking Bear and I am listening as Butterfly. Does this situation sound familiar? There is no “war of the sexes,” but
Last night after a beautiful day of travel my butterfly and I were relaxing in the hotel pool enjoying the interaction of people of all ages. One of the Moms, watching her children play with complete strangers without conditions made the most interesting comment; “the kids love parallel play.” What she was referring to was the ability
Have you ever tried to see something another person told you was there, like a dolphin swimming by in the ocean, but could not see it until you looked just a little off to the side of where it was? Once you spotted the dolphin out of the corner of your eye, you could then
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