Bear and Butterfly

On being humble

How best to approach a blog on being humble?  We might begin with the standard dictionary definition: A) not proud or haughty.  B) Reflecting, expressing or offered in a spirit of diffidence or submission.  To my thinking neither of these definitions reflect the broader and true meaning. To be Humble For me the true definition […]

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The School of Love

The School of Love is in session, and you are the only student. Set aside all the conflicting definitions of love.  Release the idea that love and romance are synonymous.  Fear of being misunderstood as you stand in love is a distraction from your classwork.   Focus on yourself How do you feel about yourself?

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Wanting to help

In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.”  “You should try this.”  “Do it this way.”  We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person.   Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine

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Jumping the fence

When we were little kids an obstacle was no problem, we simply jumped over the fence, or gate or sleeping dog.  As we added years to our count, for some reason we begin to forget that an obstacle is not a roadblock if we are committed to moving forward. Discernment I try to view an obstacle as

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Feeling optimistic

I am optimistic about the future of our young women.  Yes, I know there are so many reasons to be concerned about them; but we don’t have to go into them here.  What has me optimistic is my interaction with twenty two fantastic young ladies last night. Judging from the past Having come of age

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Building a relationship

You want to build a relationship.  Everything you do is about building a relationship with that special someone; the dating web sites, the mixers, you name it, but alas, nothing has happened yet.  I admit it, there are like a bizzillion suggestions out there on the topic of relationships.  In this one blog there is not

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Discovery of love

When we hear the word love each of us has an image that pops into our heads.  The discovery that love has so many aspects is often a surprise to us.   Types of love. Love may first seem to us to be only the romantic version.  Two people who have that indefinable attraction that

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The Father figure

The Father figure, in our society tends to be viewed as the aloof disciplinarian.  Father, or men, have been taught that displaying affection is forbidden.  As a consequence, men think they have to avoid displays of love.  The roots of this idea go far back in our DNA.  So far we no longer take time

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To be a man

To be a man today is a pretty complicated assignment.  What exactly is a man after all?  Who is the role model we seek to pattern ourselves after?  Is it the Rambo, shoot ’em-up guy?  Is it the John Wayne character, a little rough around the edges but with a firm moral compass?  Perhaps we

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Valentine wishes

Here we are, Valentines Day 2018.  No other day of celebration is more associated with love, and heartbreak than this. I hate this day! Oh yes, you will hear many people saying they hate Valentines Day.  Some will be people who have no significant other in their lives to bring them candy, flowers and beautiful

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