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Wanting to help

In wanting to support our loved ones we often offer “helpful advice.”  “You should try this.”  “Do it this way.”  We mean well, we really do want to help, but often our “helpful advice” and our good intentions simply piss-off the other person.   Bear and Butterfly In my book, Bear and Butterfly I examine …

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The innocent remark

Throughout our lives we have been subjected to the innocent remark.  These are words that are meant to be funny, or helpful, but actually hurt us deeply.  Benign phrases such as “Wow, what happened to you?” leave us searching for what might be wrong with us.  “I can’t sing either,”  is a backhanded put-down.  “Put …

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